Your Defensiveness
Is Destroying
Her Sense of Safety.

"I was you last October. Wife had left. She was struggling with being stressed out with work, an aging parent, and she despised me and the man I was (or wasn't). This course, its content, its group, the calls, its learnings have turned things around 180 degrees not just for me, but for my relationship. Do the work. Put the learning into action. Stay disciplined. You got this."

"This made all the difference in our marriage. Thank you Grant for your time, wisdom and patience as we walked through our stuff and came out gold. We are forever grateful. Highly recommend the Primal Fathers program."

"For maybe the first time ever, I was able to talk about my emotions without actually getting emotional. We both realized that today we had a completely different kind of conversation, probably one we'd never had in our entire 11 year relationship. It's really incredible what's happened in just these last few days."

"My wife had sent me some of Grant's videos last year and I was like 'who is this guy?' Persistent as my wife is, she sent me another one a few days before Divided to Devoted was due to start. This video hit home. I signed up straight away. The last four years have been a serious struggle. This has come at a stage when things were about to end badly. Not only has it changed my relationship for the better, it has changed me."

"My last 3 weeks have been some of the most peaceful times in the house for a long time, whilst life has been stressful for other reasons. My wife has been very receptive, to the point she is asking 'is there more questions?' The information Grant shares is absolutely life changing."

"I lived my 47 years with the wrong tools. Fix, fight, or flee were all I knew. Yesterday she was emotional and I held space instead of shrinking. The hardest thing for me is hearing her heart instead of her words. But I'm learning. You can't fix a vehicle if you don't have the right tools."

"This morning was different. I shut up and let her talk, and kept closely with my own emotions as she spoke. Without interruption she kept talking. Who knew how little I actually needed to say. She still wants to make it work. I am hopeful we might actually figure this out."

"I feel progress and I feel like I am gaining a deeper understanding of my wife and how to develop a relationship with her."

"So pleasantly surprised, grateful about what's currently happening, looking forward to what's coming."

"What a day. Sort of an emotional roller coaster — from being excited, to wondering why I feel like I always have to change. The mindset change from 'I'm doing this for my marriage' vs 'I'm doing this for me' — this is about me growing, and if the side effects are positive for the marriage, awesome."

"I am still learning every day and looking to improve more and more. Slow down, observe, and self reflect. I have learned to see my mistakes as steps to improve and become better as a man, a husband, a father and as a servant of God."

"I'm 76 and I've been with my wife Teres, who is 71, for 49 years. We separated 16 months ago and she filed for divorce. I graduated from the Primal Ascension Program and repeated it a 2nd time. I can't recommend it enough."

"My husband learned from Grant that we can have hard conversations and not hard arguments."

"A solid week. Positive outcomes. Lots of listening, staying quiet. One occasion of slipping into defensive mode. Learning and controlling emotions in a far better way than 2 weeks ago. Feeling fitter, mind and body. Still a long way to go."

"The Ascension is life changing for me, that is all I know."

"Before the program, I pretty much felt like I was walking on eggshells 100% of the time. Now I look forward to her questions because I know when I use the tools Grant has shown us, I have another opportunity to show my wife why she loves me. I've learned to actually listen and not just wait for my turn to talk."

"This is by far the best program. I love the honesty and directness."

"I would do this over counseling sessions any day. They do not provide you with an actionable plan. Just listen and expect things to get better."

"This has given me a truly powerful multi-dimensional perspective which allows me to connect so many of my wife's disappointments in me to my flinching aversion to pain. I'm definitely working in the right direction now. Thank you so much, Grant."

"Grant, this has just been phenomenal. I just can't wrap my head around the value you provided in these 3 weeks. Can't thank you enough and hoping that we can either work with you one day — or that we don't need to. Much love and gratitude!"

"This course is life changing and everyone should do it."

"Gents, I hope to see some of you in the Ascension. If you commit to this and do the work, you will see massive changes in yourself and your relationship. It's hard work, but it is absolutely worth it."

"I've always known how to be a man, among men. Sports captain, fraternity President, business leader and owner. But my marriage was disintegrating. My wife sent me videos of Grant, and I enrolled. It was literally the best move I have made. I realized I had no idea how to be a man, with a woman. Those days are over and I am repairing years of damage."

"The content is absolutely unreal and applied to the fullest it works. So many nuggets of gold and gems across the weeks of content — my favourite parts are being non reactive and the lover week. My fiance and I are in the best spot we have ever been. We flow and talk for sometimes hours again, massively intimate again, and the peace she has from the changes I have made is nothing short of incredible."

"The past week has really shifted. She has had some big realisation herself around her anger towards me and my anger towards her. We still have a long way to go but today we were talking about another child again and finding a new place to live! Because things are good now I do worry about the next big blowout — but I know I have the tools to get through it."

"MASSIVE WIN ALERT! My wife and I were talking, and she is moving forward and has agreed to filing! I cannot tell you how elated I feel. She plans on going to the attorney sometime this week and completing the papers. I told her today that I want to BURN THE PAPERS as a sign of letting the past go and focusing on redefining our marriage."

"Had a big win this morning. I forgot to clean the kitchen after breakfast before I went to work. Rather than get defensive and make excuses, I just owned it, admitted how mindless I'd been and listened to how frustrated she felt. As a result things didn't blow up like they have in the past and we were able to resolve it quite quickly and amicably."

"Win for the week — I made a mistake around some health insurance stuff for our daughters. He came in, comforted me and reassured me everything would be ok. He made me feel completely safe and not judged for my mistake. I felt safe, protected and not judged."

"Months after our divorce, he started your program. I am starting to feel safe for the first time in decades. Literally. He is reviewing our history for what I was genuinely experiencing instead of dismissing the pain. The validation I am now receiving from him is incredibly healing for me. Thank you."